No I am not talking about the love of your life, but the one that will ask you to say “I Do”.
Choosing an officiator for your event must be a perfect match but this is where most people settle. Why? Because people tend to think in terms of time and money…decorations take hours to put together, my pictures will last a lifetime, and the venue is costing me an arm and a leg…The problem is that under most circumstances there is one main person overseeing the entire ceremony, service,
or event. So my question would be doesn’t that in itself make finding the right person a priority?
The good thing is that the amount of time and money it takes to book someone to oversee the event is minimal, and having the right person can make your event the best it can be. So here is my list of the top five things to look for when choosing an officiator for your next event!
#5- Do you understand what I am saying?
Any basic communication class will teach you to speak clearly, slowly, and to annunciate well. If you have a tough time understanding your speaker in a one on one conversation, your guests definitely will.
Sometimes we still want what we want. So, if you are insistent upon having a particular person speak or even if you are chosen to speak at an event and have a difficult time communicating effectively, there is help. Organizations, such as Toast Masters, offer participants weekly speaking sessions with positive feedback and correction. Just plan ahead and give yourself enough time before the event to prepare for the sessions. If it is already last minute, you can always look for a seasoned speaking coach. DOV Sound Events even offers clients assistance in speech writing and coaching. If for some reason, DOV Sound is not available for your event, there are many amazing professional speakers across the country with similar services.
#4- Timing is everything!
Please, Please, DO NOT ask a long-winded person to officiate; especially if you are on a time schedule. Always, choose someone that you have heard speak and are confident can get straight to the point. A few short stories or examples are ok but keeping it short is always best.
“A good example is the best sermon”- Benjamin Franklin
#3-Think about your guests
For any type of event, remember talk to them not over them. Do not be hesitant to ask your officiator to adjust what he or she is saying to the audience. The message should be one of two things. If it is a personal event, such as a wedding or memorial service, the message should be reflective of the people it is honoring. Or, if it is a public event, like a church function or corporate meeting, it should restate and reinforce the purpose of the event.
#2- Get your guests Involved
Thinking about your guests is crucial. During the event, you will be wrapped up in the details while your guests sit through the service. With that in mind, not only should you gear the message to your guests but get them involved too.
One of the most memorable wedding ceremonies I attended, asked the guests to stand as the bride and groom finished their vows. The pastor then asked those in attendance to vow to hold the two accountable and support them through the good and the bad. It was simple and short, but gave the ceremony the perfect personal touch.
#1- Set the Tone from the start!
The single most important reason to choose wisely when it comes to who will preside over the event is… Your officiator will set the tone from the start!
Will it be an emotional night, or one that is uplifting? Will it be drawn out and boring or fascinating and engaging? Usually, it needs a little of both. The best way to balance any message is to use humor. Yes, it should be the right kind of humor, but a good chuckle can help ease the pain at a memorial service or break up the seriousness at a corporate event. Just make it poignant and something everyone can understand. The rest should simply make sense!
“Once you get people laughing they’re listening and you can tell them almost anything”
Who better to demonstrate humor, timing, and a message for the audience than Mr. Cosby.
Summer Dawn is a published author and speaker. Taking on the role of a wife, a mother, a business woman and an individual; she is all about balance, creativity and out of the box thinking. Her eye for artistic design and knack for budgeting makes her an invaluable resource to her clients and associates.